You’ll be fine

Have you at any point in your life thought that you’re not worth it? Or someone’s out of your league? Or that what you want can come later? That there must be something wrong with you?                        

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Well, there isn’t- anything wrong with you, that is.

Some DIY restore-yourself-to-sparkle-in-life tips (from someone who is in the process herself):

  1. Accept the fact that you are you. Stop running to keep up with something and be someone else.
  2. Don’t give up on yourself. Even if you’ve been dumped/fired/abandoned.
  3. Smile when you look at the mirror.
  4. Pray. To whoever and however you want.
  5. Eat your favourite snack.
  6. Watch your favourite sitcom. Mine is friends.
  7. Leave post-it notes around your house: about the things you like best about yourself.
  8. Do one thing at a time and enjoy it.
  9. Stop thinking you don’t deserve to buy yourself something. You deserve what you want.
  10. Listen to uplifting music. And sing along!
  11. Look at old pictures.
  12. Do some household chores which are therapeutic for you. I like to knead the dough.
  13. Stop trying to fight the feelings of sadness. Face it and understand that this will pass.
  14. If you’re sad, don’t try to get even more frustrated trying to find the source of your sadness.
  15. Take a walk.
  16. Spend some time with your pet, if you have one.
  17. Talk loudly to yourself. Sometimes saying things aloud works.
  18. It’s okay to miss some things sometimes.
  19. Take a long hot bath.
  20. Talk to someone- preferably someone who you know listens, and doesn’t put you on guilt trips.
  21. Spend time with kids. That one mostly works for me.
  22. Shop. I know, it’s superfluous and flighty, but it works like a charm.
  23. Say hi to your hobbies- painting, sewing, cleaning, or writing, whatever it is.
  24. Make a list of everything that is great about you. The times when you felt proud of yourself. Little things for which you appreciate yourself.
  25. Stop obsessing about your weight or hair, or whatever you worry about. Start telling yourself that you’re wonderful exactly as you are. This doesn’t mean that you will not try. This means that you understand that you’re awesome and can only get better. Not that you need to do a lot of stuff to be an acceptable person.
  26. Think of how you look at others. Do you find yourself being too critical? Take a good look. Stop being in denial about your actions. Make it a point that the first thing to say to someone would be positive.
  27. Give someone the gift of your time and attention.
  28. Get sober. Do not cling on to something when you’re feeling low about yourself.
  29. Join self-help groups. It’s fun, believe me.
  30. Write down the harshest thing people have said to you. The ones that really hurt. And forgive each sentence, each person. And destroy that paper in the most imaginative way you can think of.
  31. Stop taking the negativity personally. And realise that mistakes are part of being a human being.
  32. Face it that if you’re feeling disappointed in yourself, it’s because you’re allowing it. Start solution talk.
  33. It’s okay to ask for help. That doesn’t mean that you’re weak in anyway.
  34. Perfection is a subjective word. Don’t succumb to anybody else’s idea of perfect.
  35. Please stop comparing yourself with others. This has definitely been my kryptonite.
  36. Dance. It’s okay if you look stupid. It means you’re enjoying yourself.
  37. Set your personal goals. Write it on a paper and tape it over the bathroom mirror. That way you get to read it every day.
  38. Ask people about what they like best about you.
  39. Accept compliments. It’s actually easier said than done. It’s almost an instinctive reaction to brush off compliments. Just smile, and say thank you. You can also give a compliment in return. It won’t kill you.
  40.  Read your favourite book. If reading is your thing (and I really hope it is), then I’m sure you’ve tried this!
  41. Thank people more. And smile at people more. A constant frown is so unbecoming.
  42. Hit the gym, or do yoga, anything that helps you exercise and unwind.
  43. Dress up. When we feel low, we don’t dress up, and when we look drab, we feel worse. It’s a vicious cycle. I actually took time out to dress up during my exams, because I felt more confident after that.
  44. Learn something new, which you’re excited about.
  45. Stop sulking and ask what you can do for your friend or partner or your family.
  46. Ask out that girl/ guy you fancy insanely.
  47. Be a little lazy sometimes. Or if you’re usually lazy, like I am, then get up and do something.
  48. Don’t have a bad relationship with your body. You will get into trouble.
  49. Find a great role model: don’t copy them, but learn from them. Their struggles and their solutions.
  50. Imagine you’re visited by a successful, confident, attractive and vibrant version of you from the future, a version of you who’s everything you hope to be.  What do they want to tell you?

 

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